It's not like it's your fault. [ she feels safe in assuming that he's about as clueless in this situation as she feels, which is...

well, it's not exactly comforting, but at least they're on a level playing field. ]

Okay. So we're supposed to be married, and we both remember what happened around Halloween. [ she's guessing. ] Should we try keeping an eye out for people who were in the same situation as us before?